A Day In Ukrainian Life- Part 1

Don't call this woman 'Babushka!'

I've decided to start a 'series.' Small experiences in daily life- explained in full-detail to expose all the subtle nuances in culture in Ukraine.
I'll open with the subject of Greetings.

A fascinating aspect of Ukrainian culture is terminology.
All women- from anywhere from 5 years old to old age is referred to as 'diyavochka' which literally translates to 'girl.'

When Arun first arrived, he tried to get the attention of a middle-aged waitress by calling her 'babushka' and she was completely offended! Babushka is not really utilized AT all, and is considered rather derogatory. However, calling a grandmother babushka is completely fine.

I guess the universal term of 'diyavochka' takes away the factor of trying to determine someone's age or marital status. It's the equivalent of, "girl" "lady" "Ms" "Miss" and "hey you" all at once.
If someone's trying to get a waitress' attention, they'll shout, "Diyavochka!"
If someone is trying to address me, they'll say, "Diyavochka...." which basically takes the place of 'excuse me'
If someone is yelling to their small daughter, they'll call for her with "Diyavochka" and then scold her for running off...
It's rather universal!
The actual terminology for 'woman' is 'Zenshina' but I have NEVER heard it used.
And men or 'Moshina' are never called out in the same way. In fact, when men are addressing one another or trying to get each other's attention, there's no real prelude. They just start talking.

Beyond terminology, here's another aspect of Ukrainian greetings:

In a business setting, Ukrainians are very formal- they shake hands- with women and with men. There's no gender bias. Every once in awhile, someone will kiss a ladies hand. Perhaps in a show of gallantry.

In an informal setting, Ukrainains greet one another "French style" air-kissing on the cheek. I've seen it done just on one cheek- a well as two. Sometimes I've seen people yank someone back for a third... I guess it's preference?

In a VERY informal setting, I've seen people kiss quickly on the lips. And this DOES include men with men!